How to deal with someone flirting with your man | Metro News
I know a woman who recently asked her husband to either give her his playful bantering or gentle flirting with someone outside of your marriage is “He is just a friend,” is a statement that you don't say to yourself when. Perhaps you're at a wedding reception, seated with a mutual friend of the couple when that friend starts a little one-on-one with your partner, leaving you out of. It's happened to most of us once or twice. We're out with our dude, and the next thing we know, there's some chick (usually a mutual friend) all.
I guess that backfired in my face Husband of 10 years flirts with my friend Reply from on Aug 4 at I hate auto correct! Lol Husband of 10 years flirts with my friend Reply from on Aug 4 at I know it probably made you angry as well. You said you don't want to avoid friends for fear of your husband flirting.
Are there just certain friends that your husband flirts with or is it all your girl friends whether they're married or not? So that being said have you ever pictured yourself with another man who wasn't your husband?
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Have you ever had desires or fantasies that you've kept secret? Have you ever flirted with any of his friends at all when he wasn't in the room even just a little bit with a glance or a look or have you ever thought about doing that?
I'm just wanting to point out a few things. I'd love a response from you. As for desires and fantasies etc, I do agree that every person on the planet has these. I married because I wanted to. I married knowing what that kind of commitment is. I was accused of flirting once with a friend of his. It was innocent but that was years ago and I made it a point to never knowingly do anything he would think that about because I hate feeling hurt by the people you love and I don't cause hurt.
I think this just goes way beyond the normal desires and fantasies that everyone has.
I have a couple friends who are swingers and my husband always thought that was cool. I am very much a one person kind of girl and that stuff is very hard for me to even understand. I take sexual activities very personally, but Im starting to find out im in the minority with that. Now I have a question When is it no longer flirting?
Like I said the butt slaps and the other things that have been done I didn't pick a fight over. But is it still just flirting when he was trying to get her to in the pool with him naked? Because he is a flirty person, he always has been But there have been a few things that have more than crossed the line, this would be the 3rd time my heart felt the pain of his actions.
Has your husband ever wanted you to swing with him or has he ever been pushy with the subject? That you know of has he ever cheated on you? Well it goes beyond flirting when there is a kiss or of course any kind of cheating or intimacy with another woman or man. About being in the minority with sexual activities now a days that's probably very true. Youre welcome for admitting that, but no thanks needed, I think people are lying if they say they don't.
I will tell you something else that I have never said, and yep I know this is online, but its something for three years I kept to myself.
I stopped drinking to get drunk three years ago because of what happened and I stopped to not allow myself to ever be to a point I was incoherient. We were out celebrating my birthday.
Yes, my husband and I had talked about things and he knows its something that I would never do. He's been asked and told how it makes me feel especially when the people he wants to do things with have names and faces and it went beyond looking at porn. My closest friend up until 3 years ago, had been friends for 26 years, our daughters are to this day best friends. Well, I was drunk and I went up to my room because I was at a point I was going to throw up if I didn't go lay down.
The next thing I knew my best friend and my husband were Well lets just say that I was no longer dressed and I was no longer alone in my own bed. I don't even remember all of the details, just bits and pieces. When I confronted them about it the next day I wasn't even sure if it had really happened so I asked. They confirmed it did.
My husband said "Well we had talked about it, I thought thats what you wanted" The conversation went on from there and he confirmed that we hadn't talked anymore about that passed curiosity and my stating I wouldn't do that. My friend from then rarely talk unless its swapping our kids and my husband well I guess he lived out one of his fantasies. I feel like I was vio;lated in the worst way a husband can violate a wife and I dont even to this day know what to feel about my friend.
Anyway, thats a whole other story, but it answers your questions I suppose. So I do believe he would cheat, I think thats why this hurts is because he was taking the next step past innocent flirting and wanting to be with her naked and was relentless about trying to get her to go swimming and reassure her that I was passed out somewhere.
But since that night 3 years ago, I don't get that drunk, I rarely even drink anymore, maybe three times a year with friends, or a beer at a weekend BBQ. So Yes I do believe after what he did three years ago and his attempts at being with my friend this past weekend, I believe he would. He swears he wouldn't, but flirting is fun as long as there is no meaning behind it or desire, everyone likes to be made to feel attractive, but when it goes to a point where you get the feeling in your stomach of that not right feeling, I think then its going to far.
I think lots of people are sttractive, lots But I don't think about having sex with them.
7 ways to deal with someone flirting with your man
Lol at this example but I LOVE flowers, I surround myself and my yard with them, but just because I think they are beautiful doesnt mean I want to eat them.
People for me are the same way. Everyone looks, people like beautiful things, but you can't touch. Did I answer your questions ok?
And just an fyi, this is day 3 and he still hasn't said a word to me. Don't know what I think about that. I want to talk to him, but this conversation is the same as many others we've had so I feel at this point talking is pretty pointless. He knows I am hurt and not even an attempt at trying to make it right by apologizing.
Maybe he knows Ive been broke and the apologies wont work anymore, maybe he really thinks he didnt do anything wrong, but the bottom line is if you hurt your spouse and you love them, wouldn't you want to try and figure it out? Social media sites and online interaction are pushing this issue to dinner tables across the country -- much more so than in the past. Katherine Hertlein, a licensed marriage and family therapist interviewed by Discovery News, explains"You don't actually recognize that you're growing closer to someone on the Internet because it just looks like you're having a conversation, and that's why I think it could be really seductive in some ways.
However, many polls indicate that seemingly harmless online friendships often develop into intense emotional and physical affairs that can devastate marriages. Recent research has indicated that online cheating usually leads to physical encounters.
So, when does flirting cross that invisible line from innocent bantering to dangerous dialogue? After researching the topic and talking to a few family therapists, I pulled together the following nine red flags. If you are deleting your emails -- either to her or from her -- that's a red flag. Because by deleting them, you are guessing that your spouse would be upset if she read them, and that you are covering up something.
Moreover, ask yourself this question: If It Has a Sexual Agenda. This isn't always obvious, of course. But if you notice that your correspondence with this person feeds your sexual fantasies because an affair is often about sexual fantasy then you are probably in dangerous waters. If the communications consist of subtle sexual overtones, watch out. If it feels like foreplay in any way, that's not good. According to marriage therapist Allyson P. For example, if you are emailing a "friend" 15 times a day, that's a tad extreme, even if the content is about SpongeBob SquarePants.
A friend of mine confessed to me that she would spend two hours every night on Facebook chatting with an online buddy until she realized that was more time than she was spending with her husband. If You Are Rationalizing.
Do you feel the need to justify a very safe friendship? It's obvious to you and to your mate that the companionship is completely appropriate. However, you may very well be investing in an unsafe friendship if you are constantly wrestling with guilt or feel the need to rationalize.
If you are getting your intimacy needs met in an online relationship, or with a co-worker with whom you playfully banter, you might stop to ask yourself why.