How to Create a Special Bond with a Horse by Mary D. Midkiff
for any rider. You need to invest time and patience in your relationship with your horse. What is your best tip for bonding with a new horse?. I come across people that own a horse they just don't feel a connection with and Think of a relationship that is special in your life and go back and ponder how. Walking with your horse rather than riding adds a different dimension to your relationship. You'll learn to trust each other and it's great exercise.
Their comfort zone will always include you if you take this approach. When you go out to get your horse, whether you are bringing him in from pasture or from his stall or a pen, meet him with an open hand and allow him to smell you and come to you.
Talk to him and stroke his neck, then put the halter on and ask him to walk with you by placing your hand on the T joint of the halter where the noseband meets the cheekpiece. Let him feel your hand against his face as you walk together. Never drag your horse or walk too far out in front of your horse while leading him with halter and lead or bridlethis is a total disregard for him and a sign of disrespect and disconnect.
His head and neck should be right with you or slightly behind you all the time and you can add strokes, pats and talking. You are always a team working together. Think of it as holding hands while you walk with a special partner, walking in unison with your horse is a warm feeling of physical connection and pride that you have for each other.
Once you have your horse tied, start your grooming first by checking his feet. His feet need to be cleaned out and check his shoes.
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If all that is in order, then you can move on. I like to clean out my horse's nostrils with a damp rag and wipe around his mouth and eyes to get rid of dust, dirt, pollen and crud from the flies and grazing. I then apply InBalance essential oil around his muzzle and nostrils, over his cheeks and all over his ears. The aromatherapy will be working while I am grooming and tacking up. He loves the oils I use and goes off into horse dreamland while I am preparing to ride.
It also acts as an insecticide which we both like during these hot summer months. Bonding can also come from your hands as you help relieve discomfort and pain.
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Depending on my schedule, I will groom him and may give him a couple of little massages and stretches, or go into a lengthy massage and stretch session or administer some acupressure and magnet therapy before saddling up. I may just have enough time for a mouth massage, or I may work on his neck for a few minutes, or I might focus on loosening his hips. Get you hands really involved with your horse. Become a horse detective with your hands and feel the tone of the muscles and notice what they need to be healthy, notice the knots or adhesions, notice any areas of heat and lightly massage any little swellings away.
If he has bug bites I like to put cooling rubbing alcohol on the welts. While I am working with him, I always have him stand 4 square on the floor, no resting the hind legs as I always want him to stay "into" his hind feet and support his weight equally. It also reaffirms positive posture and support throughout his body for clear thinking and feeling.
He can rest his hind leg during his free time. Already, with this routine and this approach I am creating a deep friendship.
I am giving him comfort, relief, relaxation, full trust in my presence with him, and an understanding of my good intentions. My touch is always soft but present and in full contact with his body. If I do scare him accidentally or make a mistake, I apologize to him and stroke him telling him "I'm sorry, I made a mistake".
They do understand and appreciate the apology. Horses are forgiving when you are open to ask for forgiveness. They make mistakes, we make mistakes but the key is in the trust through those mistakes and a positive recovery. Recently, Mary Ann Simonds www. This is the area where horses nuzzle each other in the wild and it is a calming space.
I hold the reins with one hand and stroke with the other and talk to my horse. This technique will only deepen the bond between you.
When you are done riding and exercising, and after you dismount, wait just a minute and reward your horse with lots of praise and rubbing between the ears. They love it and appreciate it and will want to give to you again. Then loosen the girth or cinch, run up the stirrups if you are riding English and take your horse by the noseband and ask him to walk forward with you.
Remembering your released back and ground exercises. Beginning a relationship with a new horse is a lot like beginning a new relationship with a human. A few basic ingredients will help to insure a positive experience for all. First of all show courtesy, respect, thoughtfulness and kindness.
Do not enter the horse's personal space unless invited to by the horse's welcoming attitude. Don't put your hand on the horse's face or crowd his head. Stand by his shoulder as to not make him feel any more claustrophobic than he already naturally is. Speak in a soothing and confident tone. Keep your hands down.
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Gain an understanding that the horse wants to connect with you and how to do it. Don't just wing it. Do a bit of homework first; read up on horses or watch an educational film.
It will help you and the horse to understand and feel good about each other easier and faster. Once invited to come closer to the horse by it's attitude and body language, do so but only for a few seconds and then retreat or back away from the horse.
You will see the horse begin to watch you as you move back and forth and follow you intently with his gaze and head. This advance and retreat behavior you do around the horse actually helps the horse feel safer with you and rather curious about you at the same time.
It is very unpredator like.
Think about how horses greet each other in the wild. They share breath and then generally give each other some room. Humans are usually very thoughtful about how they touch another human's body, but not so when touching a horse's body. You never see horse's scratching each other's noses.
What I saw was one of the most fearful animals I had ever seen. He was 9 years old, beautiful, but so full of fear of humans he couldn't get far enough away, fast enough. Someone must have really hurt him badly over time.