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How did the switch happen from just dating to being his slave? . Ive always wondered how people go from normal relatively vanilla relationships to a slave/ master relationship. . It is consensual slavery, so it's quite different from non- consensual slavery, but even Is this a joke or are you being serious?. Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves. In short, the master/slave relationship works like this: People who feel Again, the important thing to remember is that it is consensual, and that.
Does that ever take the fun out of it? What would you say to someone that saw these kinds of relationships as abusive?
Violence and abuse are horrific and should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Some BDSM activities bondage, slapping, verbal degradationif they are taken out of their erotic context, may resemble violent acts, but they are not at all; they are consensual activities between adults who derive pleasure from them and who have the power to stop the activities at any time. Love, trust, servitude, obedience. Slave How did you become a slave? I met my Master four years ago in New York during my visit. We interacted socially and our interactions grew professionally.
My Master has a gift of identifying personalities. He could sense I was missing something in my life; someone who can command me. Later on, he introduced me into a world of submission and BDSM culture. Initially I was a bit afraid, but four years later, I thank the heavens for the day I met him.
How has it changed you? It takes my erotic paradigm to a whole new level. I used to be an introvert and loner. Now I am much more secure, independent and confident knowing that I have security provided by my Master who will stand by me through any hardship.
And I get confidence knowing that I am an elite part of a likeminded group where all my desires are fulfilled without social stigma or being judged. My Master introduced me to the FF female-on-female world. I have now experienced how sensual a female touch can be and now I do my best to obey and keep him happy so I can get it again. What does an average day look like for you? Every morning, I drop my Master a text or image describing my activity for the day.
After work, I am not allowed to contact him until bedtime. So my next interaction is asking him about his day as well as describing mine. Every Saturday I have a FF session with my friends.
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My Master is teaching me new things almost every other day. So far nothing has been too much. I have never seen someone so lost as an Owner whose highly competent and effective slave is out of town on vacation or a business trip. Slaves are often dominant in their own right; it takes a certain amount of self-directed take-charge-ness in order to effectively serve a demanding Owner.
This is not the profile of a doormat or an irresponsible twit. Lenora is referring here to my essay regarding the differences between a slave and a submissive.
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See A Slave is Not a Submissive. In this instance, though, I would say it is your experience base or lack thereof that is coloring your perception. I know that I have lived this way in the past and have no doubt I will again at some point in the future. The attributes I ascribe to slaves in contrast to submissives come not out of my imagination, but from seeing and corresponding with and talking with slaves who have those attributes in common.
If the couple is on the same page with their expectations, operating by the same rules, and have or develop a good relationship skill set, then they have the ingredients to create a relationship that endures. Or not — with pretty much the same likelihood of success anyone has in forging any type of relationship. I haven't heard of anything with a shelf life of over 5 years.
No relationship can guarantee longevity. It would be a mistake to assume that because the Owner is in control of decision-making, that this ensures longevity that is different from any other relationship. Then there are those which fall apart because of dysfunctional dynamics, with ugly uncollarings or slaves doing that traumatic vote-with-feet thing. And then there are those where the people involved surmount the hurdles that come along and have a really nice relationship for a long time.
It takes work to make it work. Its distinguishing features are the decision-making and obedience and chattel factors, but the rest of it is good old meat-and-potatoes relationship stuff: Yet this is a very unbending structure in these defining particulars and the reality is that most people find this constraining in ways that they do not like. The people who do this are those whose core needs and kinks are fed by this lifestyle. Notice I say need, not desire. There are other attributes as well but I think those are probably the biggies.
Those who are not wired this way, do not.